• Heather Lee

Entitlement, Shame and Vulnerability

I'm always thinking I'm feeling too entitled.

I think my boyfriend should treat me different, buy me stuff, pay more attention to me, go places with me... I think my parents should have done those things too 😋 I think I should have a better job (or a job at all). And, for goodness sakes, I think my cars should freaking work all the time. Lol!

And I whine about that stuff, too. Now, we all know that I can't control my boyfriend or my parents and what they do for me - or my cars - but I can control myself and, what I need to do is retrain myself into believing that I DO deserve all sorts of wonderful things!

I pretty much deserve whatever I think I deserve, right? I mean, isn't entitlement what gets people success in this world? You see, if I *seriously* don't believe that I am entitled to and that I do truly deserve all that I want, I cannot actually achieve my goals and dreams. So, for me, entitlement boils down to vulnerability and shame. In order to get what you truly want and truly deserve, you need to believe that you truly do deserve what you want - just like Brene Brown says in this video: